"Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man", By Steve Harvey With Denene Millner

What do women need to feel satisfied in a relationship in comparison to men?

Steve expounded on the fact that women are complicated creatures when compared to men who are extremely simple beings. Women are in need of a never-ending list of “to-do’s” in order to feel desired and wanted in a relationship but he boiled it down to the four (4) major different types of “men” women need to feel good:

• An old man: someone who doesn’t ask her for anything other than give her financial security.

• An ugly man: the guy who makes her life easier by doing everything her heart desires, no questions asked, because he’s so caught in the fact that he bagged a girl who is way out of his league. She’s a 10 and he’s a 4 type of situation.

• Mandingo man: He’s probably dunce, can hardly talk. However, he’s big, strong and will give her the best sex of your life. Blow her back out every time she needs.

• The gay guy: He’ll listen to her gossip and drama and genuinely be inclined to listen and reciprocate the enthused energy.

I don’t think I could sit down and listen to drama all day, every day. At the end of the conversation what do you gain? Absolutely nothing. I’m assuming if you aren’t ticking all these boxes as her man, she’ll go searching for someone to fill that void? I don’t want to sound delusional but hopefully she comes and talk to me about any problems she’s having, any boxes I’m not ticking or talk to her girlfriends about the things they can help with. I guess if she truly loves you she won’t do anything to hurt you, right? Ahh, I hope so.

Men. Simple. Simple. Men.

Support, Loyalty and Sex. Done.

Am I missing anything?

• Support: “A man is constantly on the lookout, sizing up the next man, standing at the ready to defend his and all of his gains (that would include you). So when we walk back in our house, we want to be able to let our guard down. All we want, really, is to hear you say, “Baby, how was your day? Thank you for making it happen for us. This family needs you and wants you and is happy to have you.” We’ve got to feel like we’re king, even if we don’t act kingly. Trust me, the more you make us feel like we’re special, the more we’ll give in return.”

• Loyalty: “ A woman’s love is emotional, nurturing, heartfelt- sweet and kind and all encompassing. You can slice a knife through it, it’s so thick. And when she’s in love with you, she is loyal to you- she can’t see herself with someone else, because for her, no one else will do. That’s a woman’s love. But for men, love is loyalty.”

• The Cookie: “We need to be physically engaged with the woman we love, the woman who is loyal to us and supports us, and the way that we do that is by making love. The emotional stuff- the talking, the cuddling, the holding hands, and bonding, that’s y’all’s thing. The way we men connect is by having sex. Period.

And that’s that. See you tomorrow.