"Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man", By Steve Harvey With Denene Millner

What pushes me to tackle my tasks or persevere through my day-to-day agenda, whether I’m in “the mood” to do them or not? Hmm…

1) I don’t want to be a disappointment to my family, especially my mother.

2) I genuinely believe that I have the potential to carry in $10,000 a month by August 12,2024 and reading books relating to personal finance, emotional intelligence and overall personal development will stretch my mind to knowing and understanding when countless opportunities appear within my reach that I must grab with all my might.

3) I want to control 100 units of rental real estate by the age of 25.

4) I NEED FINANCIAL AND TIME FREEDOM by 25. I want to experience a 9-5 but I don’t want to stay in a job.

5) My father died when I was 8. So, I didn’t really grow up with a male figure in my life. Hence the reason why I want passive income: to spend as much time with my family, creating memories, knowing that they won’t be around forever to enjoy their presence. However, if I’m constantly working wouldn’t I technically be non-existent in their lives as well? Something as simple as taking my kids to schools would mean the world to me right now.

As you can see, my goals are mainly hovering around money, family and success, essentially.

I think that’s pretty sweet; I have a definite purpose. The reading (“Think And Grow Rich”, by Napoleon Hill) isn’t going in vain after all.

Steve Harvey broke down a man’s “DNA” or “encryption” very neat and simple. He said that there are three (3) things that drive a man:

• Who He Is,

• What He Does and

• How Much Money He Makes

And if a man has not made it to the heights where he is content with the achievements he has garnered for himself, he won’t feel complete. He won’t feel like “a man”. Therefore, if he is focusing on his growth and development, why do you think you, as the lady, would be the main priority? Not saying the female isn’t important in the equation but from my point of view I wouldn’t feel extraordinary on the inside knowing that I could have given her along with my kids a better life. If I cannot give her what I believe she truly deserves why should I have a significant other at all? Not saying that everything a man does is for a woman but let’s be real…

If it wasn’t for women most men would do the bare minimum to make it through life. We wouldn’t purchase furniture, just a recliner and a big tv and watch premier league, la liga, ESPN and ESPN2 all day, we wouldn’t necessarily care how luxurious the car is, as long as we can get from point A to point B, we wouldn’t go to the barber as frequent as we do. Overall, men are simple creatures. We, as men, are always trying to impress the female because in our eyes she is the prize.

I don’t remember where I saw this from, but it stated, “Women, children and pets are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved UNDER THE CONDITION that we provide something”. So, if we have nothing to offer it is quite evident women wouldn’t even look in our direction.

Here’s a different perspective now. If a man isn’t where he wants or needs to be in life, doesn’t have a plan, doesn’t make much money, doesn’t have a stable job…….and essentially doesn’t know himself, would you, the lady, be interested? Imagine the females getting attention from a man who has no purpose? I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t be as respected as the other men with ambition. Now, the man who is chasing goals and conquering lions would be deemed more desired and his time would be more valuable to the lady, seeing that he’s so busy, yet he took the time out of his day to cater to me, the woman? That would make her get butterflies in it? Never forget: People want what they can’t have.

Probably that’s the reason I don’t see the need to have a girlfriend at this point in my life.

1) Who is Caton?……At this point, I don’t even know.

2) What does Caton do?…….Cyah tell yuh fada. Why? Because I do nothing.

3) How much money does Caton make? ….NOTHING

So why would I search for a girl before I search for myself?

Some lines from the book:

• “These three things (who they are, what they do, and how much money they make) make up the basic DNA of manhood- the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he’s truly fulfilled his destiny as a man. And until he’s achieved his goal in those three areas, the man you’re dating, committed to, or married to will be too busy to focus on you.”

I could technically type out the entire chapter, seeing that I basically highlighted every line, if I had the time but I can’t. Would definitely read again.

Can’t wait for tmr.